World Bamboo Day 2024

Introduction – World Bamboo Day is celebrated every year on September 18 to spread awareness about the conservation of this extremely useful plant. …

World Bamboo Day 2024

If you love me tell me NO – Belladonna’s Flashlight

Why is it so hard to tell the people that you love NO? Even if we see that saying yes to everything may be killing them.

It’s a fine line between enabling someone and wanting them to feel satisfied—notice I didn’t say happy, but satisfied. So many of us love so hard that saying no actually hurts. We want the ones we love to get what they need and not have to empty if they don’t get it.

I remember when my kids were little, My husband and I wanted them to have everything they asked for. I mean, we were a sucker for our kids. We went out of our way to make sure we could provide everything they desired.

If I couldn’t get them what they wanted, I felt like I failed them. 

Then, one day, I started practicing the word “NO!” I was so exhausted from trying to keep up with their wants and needs that I just flipped out.

I told them that I didn’t want to hear one more demand, and they saw the crazy look in my eyes and slowly backed away.Being a parent is tough, but to me, being an enabler is tougher.

Lately, I have been glued on my 600-pound life again. Each story consists of an enabler and, in some situations, multiple enablers and an obese man/woman. In most cases, their obesity has left them bedridden and totally relying on family to cook and bring them meals, bathe them, and so much more.

But what blows my mind is the family members are still bringing them over 12000 calories a day.

How hard is it to tell them NO

  • I will not bring you this junk food
  • I love you too much to help you kill yourself
  • You can’t walk on your own; you use an oxygen tank,
  • You’re screaming bloody murder if someone tries to help you get up to walk
  • Blood clots are now forming in your legs from lack of movement and can and will kill you if it goes untreated.

One particular lady was determined to pull herself together for her children. She told her family that she was too weak to do this on her own. Her temptations for food are too intense for her to manage. She told her family to stop giving in to her request and please be the strength that she needs.

I had chills all over my body, and tears could not stop flowing down my face as she cried out, “If you love me, tell me, NO!”

And I felt that!

You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored.

Source: If you love me tell me NO – Belladonna’s Flashlight

America’s dairy farms disappearing amid rising costs, pricing issues – UPI.com

(Me: very misleading headline… the number of individual farms has plummeted as the size of industrialized farms has skyrocketed. No furutre for family farms, just eer growing industrial giants and higher prices for corporate profits…)

Source: America’s dairy farms disappearing amid rising costs, pricing issues – UPI.com