I watched most of the white participants offer qualified apologies, requests for patience and demand sympathy and support for their position.I saw many Black participants discuss the matter from a colonized mind that could not demand for itself what it would offer others.The white participants took the forgiveness and anguish of the Black Participants for granted. And requested more of the same without offering anything in return. Let’s assume for the sake of argument that relations between peoples mirror those between individuals.As an individual, when wronged, mistreated, disrespected, marginalized, maimed, murdered… etc., I am looking for a full acknowledgement of what was done to me and an unqualified apology. If there is an explanation of why I was you victim, great. But no excuses.And then I fully expect the wrong doer to make amends. To evidence his emotional state of being sorry.Anything less than that is useless.And then the wrongdoer is to commit to and actually never commit the harm to me again.Whites in America are very comfortable with the notion that black people have to earn full humanity and citizenship. And upon the completion of the Herculean effort, by Black people, white people will pronounce us human and citizens.If you don’t already see my full humanity and acknowledge my full citizenship that we don’t even need to talk. There is nothing I can do to change your mind. My humanity is not yours to give. It never has been.White people as the keepers of power have the ability to end racism today.